Why Do We Cheat?!?!
Why do men and women go outside of their relationship for companionship. I mean if you don't want to be with the same person, why even get married, or claim to be in a monogamous relationship?
What is considered cheating? Are you only cheating if there is a sexual relationship or could cheating happen by having an emotional connection with someone besides your significant other?
The internet makes getting together with strangers for some no strings attached sex easier. It just doesn't make sense to me. Most of the people that I know that have cheated on their significant other don't want to leave the person, they just want something different. That does not make sense!! You don't get different when u decide to be with one person. And if you want different talk it over with your partner.
I have considered stepping outside of my marriage...Each and everything he pisses me off. However, I realize that it will only cause more problems
I want to hear from you. What do you think makes a person decide to cheat? What is considered cheating? Is cheating acceptable? Is cheating forgivable?
Why do men and women go outside of their relationship for companionship. I mean if you don't want to be with the same person, why even get married, or claim to be in a monogamous relationship?
What is considered cheating? Are you only cheating if there is a sexual relationship or could cheating happen by having an emotional connection with someone besides your significant other?
The internet makes getting together with strangers for some no strings attached sex easier. It just doesn't make sense to me. Most of the people that I know that have cheated on their significant other don't want to leave the person, they just want something different. That does not make sense!! You don't get different when u decide to be with one person. And if you want different talk it over with your partner.
I have considered stepping outside of my marriage...Each and everything he pisses me off. However, I realize that it will only cause more problems
I want to hear from you. What do you think makes a person decide to cheat? What is considered cheating? Is cheating acceptable? Is cheating forgivable?
posted by Dawnya @ 1:36 AM
7 Comments:
At 2:55 AM,
Lance said…
lol...time out babygirl. sounds like you're contradicting yourself on the issue.
one paragraph you're asking WHY men/women do it, then later you thought about "dippin'" on ol' boy cause he dun fugg'd up somewhere down the line. if his BS has triggered a response that "made" you want to give it up...then you have your answer.
only difference is you didn't cross the line and others have.
but, if you dipp'd on him, will it "really" cause problems?...are you sure? problems on "whose" end? his or yours? (yeah, you're right...what's done in the dark will eventually come out in the light...sooner or later)...but keep in mind, he could be "dippin'" on you but on the DL with you having no idea about it.
generally, you can tell by mannerisms, acts around the house, little things, details. details. details. when i figured it out, it was too late and a wrap! love can blindside you, no doubt!
i don't know....jan 1, 2007 will mark my 12th anniversary of separation/divorce from wifey. the only thing i got from her when we separated was her middle finger and a Bible. go figga! we had a 13 year relationship dating back to our high school years (awwww, so sweet)...but now, i wouldn't give that bitch the time of day if flava-flav was standing next to me with big ben wrapped around his neck!
sometimes, it all comes down to this....shit happens!
emotional
physical
combo of both...
a lotta times, it's the evilness of other lonely souls to speak to your "inner" spirit, to lure you away, cause they ain't got nobody and they wanna see you down with them.
and on...
and on...
and on...
i'll hush up so others can speak....
(:-x <====lance
At 10:11 AM,
Rich in the Stl said…
People cheat for a lot of reasons.
Some do it because they cheated so much when they were single, that it's just a way of life for them now. They love their mate, but they like the other personalities boosting their ego as well.
Some do it out of frustrations with their spouse, much in the same way that you considered.
Some do it because they married for the wrong reasons. I've talked to a lot of people (male and female) who are married, but not in love. They convinced themselves that they were at the time, but it ended up boiling down to just trying to do the right thing. A lot of people feel too guilty to continue in pre-marital sex so they get married. Some are shacking and want to validate their relationship by getting married. Some have kids or get pregnant and just figure its the right thing to do. Then one day, after years of being together, they ask themselves why are they in a relationship with this person. Is it the kids, is it the security of income, is it lifestyle (can't afford to live at this level alone)?
All that aside, some cheat because the other person just doesn't do it for them sexually anymore. They've tried all the positions, but they just ain't feeling it. Or the frequency at which they used to get it has gone down, big time.
When people get tired of talking, it becomes a lot easier for the maintenance man/woman to come into the picture. The problem then is that the maintenance man/woman always feels so right to the person cheating. Why is that?
I could go on and on, regarding this topic. I can think of several people single and married that are perfect case studies for this topic who just want to be married (mainly for sex and companionship) or who want out because the spouse is just not doing it for them on several levels. It's a good topic. I can't wait to hear more.
At 9:58 PM,
Girly_Girl said…
Cheating, or infidelity, is a story as old as time.
I'd love to know all the answers.
I think reasons for being unfaithful differ with every marriage, like Rich said.
Unfortunately, human beings seem to think that 'the grass is always greener on the other side.' This is definitely not the case, but, once one partner has cheated--it is usually too late to go back to what you had.
At 8:38 AM,
Anonymous said…
only if you get caught Girly-girl, only if you get caught.
At 4:00 PM,
Girly_Girl said…
Who is anonymous and why do they keep singling ME out??
Sheletha, Lance, Rich...Anonymous better not be you!!! :-)
At 5:13 PM,
Dawnya said…
I love reading the comments that everyone has on all of our different blogs.
Lance...she was a fool!! Now I have thought about cheating, but I couldn't do it. Hell I wouldn't be able to live with myself. So I know I would snitch myself out. LOL.
Rich...your comment about people marrying for the wrong reasons is a excellent example of why our marriages are in danger. Some people are just not marriage material. Unforutunately they don't realize that until it is too late. I try not to judge those who step out on their relationships...but how can they cheat and still sleep at night?
Girly_Girl...you said "it is too late to go back". I totally agree. However, so many people try to save their marriage after infidelity...I just think it would be to difficult. Because even if I could forgive I would never forget...and everytime that fool went to get some bread I would think that he was with another woman.
Anonymous...STOP HATING on Girly_Girl...she is good people.
At 8:26 AM,
Anonymous said…
I wasn't hating, just replying to her comment.
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